I grew up in a messed-up world

I grew up in a world that taught me I should be "Ladylike"

My grandparents tell me "Well that's not very ladylike."

My parents say, "Why do you act like that."

What is ladylike?

Who came up with the definition of ladylike?

We as women are told to be kind, talk softly, to be gentle.

Other things we are told to "eat less", "eat more", "put on less makeup", "put on more makeup", "you're just doing this for attention"

And worst part is that not even half of the stuff we are told daily.

We are criticized by everything we do.

One time I was even asked by my own parents as a "joke", "are you sure you're a girl?"

Yes, I am a girl. I am a girl with a voice and an opinion. I am a girl who likes football, food, and the way I look. I don't like makeup, dresses, or even the color pink.

Why is that so wrong?